Monday, June 19, 2006

Sunshine

There are times when we feel down
Then everything seems all wrong
Sorrow stacks up
Happiness bubbles away
Draw energy from sunshine, take a gift of love from fellow beings
even from strangers like me.
Take your time to heal,
take as long as you will
When you feel stronger
Maybe you will be Sunshine for others, maybe you will give love
even to strangers like me
who feel pain too

Venus Speaks
19-June-06
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Saturday, June 10, 2006

World Famine of Love

World Famine of Love

Venus Speaks

The world seems to be going through a famine of love…


There is an abundance, limitless abundance of love, yet people are starved of love.
A famine of romantic love.


Millions and millions of women lie lonely in their beds, wishing they had romantic love.
And about the same number of men do.
Some of these people are couples in the same bed,
yet each lies lonely. They are together, separately lonely.
They are at work, they walk around in the kitchen, they have their meals, they go out with friends, they walk on the beach, they look up at the stars…

All the while, millions and millions wish and pine for love.
The few who found love and live love don’t seem to help the others.
And the love-starved people don’t know how to find each other,
or they find each other but almost all don’t find love,
because everyone wants love but almost all are not giving it.
Everyone has it but almost all are not giving it out.

Romantic love, soul love, inter-race love
friendship love, family love, animal love.

Most people are better at the latter three, and hopeless with the first three.


How many people can you see show affection to their pets better than to their spouses?

How many people can you see treat strangers better than they treat their own family members?

How many people can you see turn up on time for meetings at work but are always late for their spouses or dates because they are not as deserving of consideration?

How many people can you see who care more for people in their own country and therefore prefer to buy goods from them rather than goods of the same or better quality produced by people from the third world?

How many people can you see who want love but do not do anything proactively to find it?

How many people can you see who confuse infatuation with real love?

How many people can you see who, having found and been attracted to someone quite wonderful, do not recognise it or find faults or lose interest and then go for someone else who cause them a lot of grief? And they still don’t recognise what’s happening?


I was once told by a wise friend that
Human beings are flawed. We wreck good things.’

Another wise man (the Buddha) apparently taught about causes of unhappiness
being primarily‘attachment-love, greed, anger, delusion’.
I’m not certain of the translation down the centuries (2549 years ago, as at 2006 A.D.), but it is not about what the person exactly said –because of who he was, it is about whether these words make good sense. Certainly a lot of us are deluded about a lot of things….

How many people can you see who insist, maybe are deluded?, that certain rules and ideas are right, such as that older men and younger women are the only good match and men aged x on internet dating sites specify their ideals to be x-20 to x-1 years old –the '–1' being for their one upmanship? (is this at odds with the statistics that men die younger than women by 5-6 years almost globally and that many men are impotent earlier than women?), that women must be beautiful and slim and well groomed while the men demanding such qualities themselves sport beer belly and are haggard and slobbily dressed, that true romantic love must be love at first sight otherwise it can’t be love, that a match, again often on internet dating sites, is determined primarily by age, height, eye colour, hair colour, etc or that if-no-photo-first-I-won’t-talk-to-you-despite-your-other-qualities-and your-soul, that men are more intelligent and some men therefore complain of not finding intelligent women or publicly insult their wives and girlfriends –and vice versa, that sex is more important than love or that love is more important than sex, that people should while away years alone wasting those years before waking up at the age of near death door hoping to find a mate, that generalisation or stereotyping is ok or is the way to go, or that a mate must be all things in one person.

No one can truly claim any of these rules and ideas to be right, or wrong. Should we be well aware of possible delusion and therefore stop limiting ourselves by such imposed rules? Self-imposed rules at that. No, let's not blame ‘society’. Society is each of us acting alone at the same time while evading responsibility by blaming the mass.


How many people can you see who know very well that simply giving compliments, or other expression of any kind of love, would make someone happy hold back from doing so? Or couldn’t be bothered doing so? What does it take for such simple gesture? Why hold back from giving love?

What does it take for such simple gesture? Why hold back from giving love or allowing someone to feel happy?


An abundance, limitless abundance of love, yet the world is going through a famine of love…
Everyone has it, but who is giving it out….?



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24-May-06
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Friday, June 09, 2006

Women like nice guys…..

15 reasons why it appears that women don’t like nice guys…..

Nice guys are so afraid of losing friendship, they won’t say anything remotely friendly. We think they don’t like us.

Nice guys are so afraid of offending us, they won’t do anything remotely romantic. We feel certain they are not interested.

Nice guys are so afraid of getting too close, they keep themselves distant, and play hard-to-get.

Nice guys are so afraid of appearing lecherous, they leave us feeling absolutely undesirable.

Nice guys pretend (?) they’re not interested in women or sex.

Nice guys take so long thinking about the right words to say about how lovely we look, we don’t get to hear it at all. And we feel absolutely unattractive and that there’s something wrong with our outfit. So we go to the bathroom to check, and cry.

Nice guys don’t want us to feel chased so they don’t call, and after waiting by the phone till we know we’re definitely forgotten and unwanted we go.... to the fridge.

Nice guys think so carefully about choosing the right gals, they are suspicious about all of us. None of us is good enough.

(No, those guys hypnotized by the media to think model- and celebrity-looks are the most important qualities in women do NOT count as nice guys.)

Nice guys are sensible with money, they add up numbers three times before buying us drinks.

Nice guys are intelligent, they analyse everything and they ask us questions like at a job interview we didn’t apply for.

Nice guys worry so much about this that and those they forget to enjoy our company. They seem happier with male friends and we think they don't like us.

Nice guys give mixed messages, when we stay-still they want us to give a come-on signal, but when we give the signal they think us too easy and run away.

Friendliest nice guys treat us like a sister. Romance is R.I.P. And the other thing with it.

Nice guys think grooming themselves is vain, so …

Nice guys are so naïve, tigress got them first!

(And another thing….As I said in World Famine of Love ‘Human beings are flawed’. My wise friend Paul also said ‘When it comes to finding mates, intelligent women make such terrible choices.’ Well, maybe we’re just desperate…?)


Relax, guys….. come-on… be your natural male…..




Venus Speaks
9-June-06
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Thursday, June 08, 2006

Dating and Relationship Tips for the Day 8-June-06

Did you know there are more than 10,000 minutes each week (10,080 to be exact)?

Either procrastinate your life away (again) or spend just 2 minutes
just 2 minutes
to proactively make someone happy. A simple hello. A simple smile. A simple text. A simple call how’s your day.
It is quite safe...

Did you say you wanted real love….?



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8-June-06
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Wednesday, June 07, 2006

Observations from Planet-Star Venus

Observations from Planet-Star Venus

Earthlings appear to have lost much of ‘feeling loved’ and ‘natural sex life’. The situation has reached a famine proportion.

Further investigations are encouraged as to the cause of the famine. Data so far point to fear, delusion, passivity, procrastination, and denial.

Treatments recommended:

  1. Individual and mass awareness, self-education, and proactivity. Situation: Urgent. Apathy level is at High Alert.
  2. Improving media material and selective consumption, to stem the disease and false tracks.
  3. Success needs to be reported to disseminate wisdom of dating and relationship tips, to energise up fellow earthlings, and to encourage more successes. Any setback needs to be gotten over and proactivity restarted.


Venus Speaks
12-June-06
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Tuesday, June 06, 2006

Dating and Relationship Tips for the Day 6-June-06

Dating and Relationship Tips for the Day 6-June-06

Do you know why it makes sense for guys to call gals….?

Apparently (most) guys are single-focussed so if your gal-pal calls you while you’re busy you could feel harassed and accuse her of ‘too needy’, ‘coming on too strong’, etc and your answering could sound abrupt or dismissive or you could promise-to-call-back-then-forget,
whereas (most) gals can multi-task such that if you call while she’s already doing 3 things she can happily fit it in with a smile.

There’s another thing… lots of guys tell me that they think of their women some of the time, while (most) women when in love think of their men ‘all the time’ –yes, all the time, in parallel with doing everything else. So a call hits the spot every time.

So go on guys….. play the game fair….. MAKE that call (or text).

Venus Speaks
6-June-06
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Thursday, June 01, 2006

Dating and Relationship Tips for the Day 1-June-06

Make real love happen when you are proactive, ask and listen very open-mindedly, spend quality time, do something to make the person happy, keep yourself nice, and keep the spirit of goodwill.
Keep this a check list of your life for a week and tell me what happens.

Venus Speaks
1-June-06
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